WHY DO MEN FALL ASLEEP AFTER SEX? Questions & Answers
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WHY DO MEN FALL ASLEEP AFTER SEX? Questions & Answers
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Sexual Dreams and Their Significance -- A Study of Sexuality in Dreams...
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Sexual Dreams and Their Significance...
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"SEXUALITY IN DREAMS is a Page created in response to those dreamers -- Men and Women -- who have asked for the best sites to help them with sexual matters." Your Dream Team.
Sexual dreams are an essential part of our dreaming life. Sexuality in dreams, while often exhilerating, sometimes disturbing, is beyond the dreamer's ability to control. Sexual dreams, in fact, are considered a key to understanding the dreamer.
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SEXUAL DREAMS:
It was Freud who began it all. The world of Sexual Health is a complex one: starting first with a healthy outlook on human sexuality, both women's and men's -- it's not just a matter of position -- intercourse, oral, anal -- or inner story and fantasy -- or orientation -- straight, gay or lesbian -- hardcore and educational web sites abound -- people seek information online -- what's their story? -- some seek help, some enhancement, some live "pic" or "gallery" or picture or toy or the latest dot com and free chat -- some are looking for mature answers... All in all, dreams can be sexual, or dreams can be Spiritual. Sometimes both. Certainly, sexual dreams must be studied. But, as we have concluded elsewhere, only if you find the content of a sexual dream disturbing -- or if you are more sexually aroused by dream content than by waking experience, do you need to seek out a dream reading. If you need a dream interpreted, you can get a LIVE DREAM READING from DREAM WORLD -- just CLICK on YOUR DREAM TEAM Home Page Now! For more on SEXUAL DREAMS from the Net's Premier Dream Readers, and a look at the most common Romantic and Sexual ones, go to:
From his studies of free association, came his belief that the "sexual urge" was at the center of our dreams, and hence of our psychological lives. Freud declared that our unconscious instincts live in a Primal Chaos, that just underneath our civilized masks, dwelled creatures of passion -- sex and violence.
He saw sexuality in all our dreams. He saw some objects as "male sexual symbols" -- guns, knives, candles, pens, water taps, champagne bottles, doorknobs -- and some objects as "female sexual symbols" -- hats, gloves, shoes, purses, bowls, cups, caverns... Motion in dreams symbolized sexual intercourse: riding a horse or motorcycle, climbing stairs, dancing, being on a heaving ocean..
Carl Jung came along and reinterpreted this idea, adding the studies of Mythology and Literature to dream interpretation, making it clear that not ALL dreams are sexual..."Freudian."
Your Dream Team's interpretation of Sexual Dreams is based on emotional content. If you were sexually aroused in your dream, or wake up sexually excited, your dream was about sex. If you awake in a calm, unaroused state, it wasn't. Sometimes you can dream of the most sexually explicit acts, but its real meaning could be one of Spiritual Growth. Sometimes you can dream of something very un-sexual, but its meaning could be ultra-Freudian.
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"HOW TO PERFORM PERFECT CUNNILINGUS"
An Article by Patricia Kent, Sex Therapist
1. QUICK CUNNILINGUS TIPS...
Be clean
Have a shower or bath together first. This will help make things taste and smell better.
Be enthusiastic
Don't go down on her unless you really want to. Women can tell if you're less than enthusiastic.
Start slowly
Avoid going for her clitoris right away. Tease her first. Lick around her clitoris. Remember, when starting out too little is better than too much.
Listen
Use your ears as well as your mouth and tongue. Listen to her moans of pleasure. Ask her to let you know what she likes.
ABC
When using your tongue on her pussy try writing the letters of the alphabet with your tongue using a continuous motion. The letters "Z" and "N" can be especially enjoyable for her.
Make some noise
Let her know how much you're enjoying giving her head. Do it with enthusiasm!
Her clitoris
When she is ready lick and suck her clitoris. Remember though that some women cannot handle direct contact on their clitoris even when they're really excited.
Variety is the spice of life
You can give her different feelings by using your tongue in different ways. A flat tongue will give her a feeling like a soft caress. A rigid tongue will give more direct and firm stimulation.
Don't stop
In general women like steady stimulation. So don't stop, especially when she's about to come.
2. CUNNILINGUS EXPLAINED IN MORE DETAIL...
When a man gives oral sex to his female partner it is called Cunnilingus.
This form of oral sex consists of stroking the vaginal walls, clitoris, and the outer lips of the vagina using your tongue to stimulate her to the point of orgasm. Giving woman cunnilingus the right way is almost a guarantee to her reaching orgasm. Women love oral sex, it is soft and sensual, and it doesn't leave them feeling used and abused.
As Valerie Kelly, author of HOW TO WRITE EROTIC FICTION, puts it: "If you can perform great oral sex, you'll always get a second date!" And as sex therapist Gail Collier concluded: "If you can perform perfect cunnilingus, she'll want to marry you!"
Foreplay, with cunnilingus, before intercourse makes the female feel more special and important during sex. Plus her knowing that she has already had an orgasm makes intercourse a little less trying for the man to go ahead and get his. Better yet, giving each other oral sex and both reaching orgasm leaves the rest of the night to endless possibilities. So you want to learn to please your partner in the department of cunnilingus, well follow these simple steps to drive her wild in bed:
1. Start by not paying attention to the clitoris at all. Don't just dive in and go to town on the clitoris. Concentrate on the other areas of the vagina first.
2. Kiss on the outer walls of the vagina, lavishly lick on the vagina, insert your tongue into her vagina.
3. Now you may work your way to the clitoris. At this stage, don't flick the clitoris with your tongue, yet. Gently lick the clitoris with the flat part of the tongue. A neat little trick is to draw letters with your tongue around the clitoris.
4. You may want to expose the vagina a little more to help find the clitoris a little easier. This allows you to concentrate on the important area of the vagina to help her reach her ultimate pleasures.
5. Don't forget the rest of her body while stimulating her. Caress the other erogenous zones with your hands, you may have to learn multitasking her, and if you can't walk and chew gum at the same time, this area may need a little work.
6. Now that she is just gleaming with passion and ecstasy, now you can go in for the kill. Attack the clitoris with gusto. Be deliberate, but be gentle. Too much of a good thing, may not be that. You don't want to over stimulate the clitoris. Maintain a slow and steady pace, nibble and suck on the clitoris. Word of warning, don't suck on the clitoris to hard. This is a sensitive organ and it can be bruised, and become numb if roughed up to bad, so keep it gentle and sensual.
Communicate with your partner during cunnilingus. If you are doing something and she likes it, continue doing it, if she doesn't like it move on to something else. Once you learn what your partner enjoys you can experiment with new variations of her likes.
The more you do what she likes the more likely she is to reach orgasm. So the most useful and effective technique is to do what she loves, cunnilingus is for her so treat her to what she wants and loves. More than likely she may return the favor.
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"You told us to explore our sexuality. But when I suggested something new, she said that she doesn't do THAT. What does she like?"
In today's culture, it seems that everybody is enjoying their sexuality to the fullest extent. "Everybody is doing it!" Or so it seems.
Certainly, better (and more frequent) sex can improve the odds that your marriage will last forever. Did you realize that the divorce rate is almost 60%? The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers presented a study of the major reasons for the failure of marriages. They ranked "failed expectations or unmet needs" as one of the most important causes of divorce.
A few years ago, a number of marriage counselors decided to research a project to find out their clients' Top 10 Favorite Sexual Positions. Much to our surprise, we found that most people are not experimenting as much as we thought.
In fact, among women, four sexual positions were more favored than all the others put together! Here is what we found:
Fourth: MUTUAL MASTURBATION Most of us went through this stage at the beginning. We don't even think of it as a real "position." Just fore-play. But many are going back to it as a form of exploring each other's sexuality. A new beginning. It's also been a safe and pleasurable way for pregnant women. Now it's being rediscovered by older couples, some of them for medical reasons...
Third: WOMAN ON TOP: The perfect way for a woman to get the exact "connection" she wants. She is best able to get the best clitoral and G-spot connection that she seeks.
Second: 69 Mutual oral sex is often the most pleasurable. Almost universally, women love to receive oral gratification and they strongly appreciate a man that can bring her to intense climaxes in this way. Men who know oral tips, tricks and techniques to bringing their wife to intense climaxes are very much appreciated! Men are discovering the best and most effective ways to orally pleasure her and she will be that much more excited about sex.
First: MAN ON TOP Yes, the traditional Missionary position. Women still love it. But, as Alice K said, "I love it when he takes his time. And carresses my face and talks to me."
One position talked about today ended up far down the list -- anal sex. As one woman said, "If a man asks me to do THAT, I won't go out with him again."
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"Should I ask him to make my favorite fantasy come true?"
The answer to that question depends on what her favorite fantasy was.
It's common for a sex therapist to ask their clients about their sexual fantasies. It helps to understand their problems and secret needs.
After over 25 years as a sex therapist and marriage counselor, I've heard a great deal of imaginative fantasies described, some in magnificent detail.
What are women's most common sexual fantasies? There are about a dozen that I have heard over and over again. Like THE MASKED STRANGER!
The Top Five most common Women's Sexual Fantasies are:
5. RAPE. Perhaps this could better be described as PASSIONATE SEDUCTION, since very few women actually imagine this fantasy as something they would really want to occur. They are fully aware that in real life, rape is a vicious physical attack that can destroy part of their very soul. In their fantasy, their seducer is incredibly handsome and seems to know their every want and need. To be possessed.
4. FORBIDDEN LOVE. This can involve anyone, from a married co-worker to a family member. It's usually a short fantasy, rarely thought out in detail. The setting for the fantasy may be as important as the identity of the forbidden lover.
3. PERFECT STRANGER. This usually involves someone just seen briefly, and then built in the woman's imagination into the perfect lover. Setting and story may become very detailed, often built up in her mind over a long period of time.
The important element in the above three, is that they are products of the woman's imagination and remain a daydream. They wouldn't want them to really happen. This isn't true of numbers 2 and 1. What makes these two fantasies so powerful is the added longing for them to come true!
4. EX-LOVER RETURNS. This is women's second most common fantasy. For many women, it isn't something they REALLY want to happen, but the longing for a lost lover is always there. This longing is more common in women than men. But for other women, the need for her LOST LOVER is deep and unrelenting. Something that must come true. If you have this problem I recommend the best selling BRING BACK A LOST LOVE!
5. CUNNILINGUS. This particular fantasy, and its prevalence, often comes as a surprise. After all, in today's cultural climate of sexual exploration and "anything goes," it's often a surprise to learn how "ordinary" many couple's love life is. Many men, especially men of older generations, just refuse to perform oral sex on their wives or girl friends. (Many women don't want to perform oral sex eiter, but my answer to them is easier: Try flavored condoms!) So cunnilingus is a common fantasy for women. (My answer to such men is: Try it, you might like it -- many men do!)
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"She's been saying that all the romance has gone out of our relationship. How can I turn her on?"
A relationship is very involved, both on the physical and the intimate levels. One person may feel the need to cuddle (such as your woman) while you on the other hand, don't want to be too close after you are relaxed, and feeling completely satisfied.
Cucan Pemo, author of BRING BACK THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE!, explains it like this: "What you are going to find is that there are many things that are going to make your partner want to have more sex with you, and sometimes you are going to have to give a little, so you can get a lot more back in return."
Q. "What are some of your suggestions for rekindling passion?"
A. "First, think about sex, and tell her you are thinking about sex, even if it is over the phone."
Q. "Many men don't realise just how sexual women's thoughts can be?"
A. "That's it exactly. What many men don't realize is that women are going to think about sex quite often. A woman is going think about how you talked to her, how you kissed her, and how you rubbed your whiskers on her cheek the night before. Your partner is going to want to have more sex, the more they are thinking about sex, and the more often you tell her that she is sexy. Make an intimate call. Tell your partner all about what you want to do to her, and how you want to do it, and then let her think about that all day until she gets to see you again!"
Q. "What should happen when they are first alone?"
A. "Spend a few minutes alone, in the dark, as you listen to music."
Q. "Some men may think this is boring."
A. "Not many couples sit back, relax and just listen to music. Sometimes music is going to be very sexy, putting you or your partner, or both of you in the mood at the same time. Instead of just climbing into bed, and watching the news or the late show, you should turn on a bit of your favorite music and sit close with your partner."
Q. "Now things are getting interesting. What next?"
A. "Take a shower before you come and cuddle up close to your partner. Women are often turned on by the smell of cologne, or by the smell of soap. In taking a shower every night before you climb into bed, no matter how tired you are, you are creating a memory in her mind, of the clean smell she loves the most. Use this smell and the need to be close to you for your own advantage, so you can have more sex, more often. Sexual attractions are very strong, and if you are not using your natural abilities to attract your partner, you very well could be losing out on a good bit of good sex."
Q. "Keep going."
A. "Bring her a glass of wine at bedtime, and leave the lights on low. You might not realize it but all she wants is a little time, just five minutes to unwind and your partner will be ready for a little alone time with you. Bring her a glass of wine, tea, or just water as she unwinds and gets ready for bed. You will be thoughtful and insightful and she will remember these small things as you reach over and kiss her. Your partner just loves being the center of attention and this doesn't take much added energy at all on your part so you should give it a try!"
Q. "Men have been called selfish lovers. Should't he be doing something that also pleases him?"
A. "Yes. And he will if he offers her a quick massage, nothing fancy or too long, just a brief rub down. You might not realize it, but the feel of your hands, on her back, and on her chest is going to make a woman feel good. If you want to put more sex into your relationship, you should show your partner a little foreplay, a little extra care. A woman is going to be turned on as you touch the small of her back, the inside of her breast - and why? Because no one ever touches her in those places except for you, and with this touch you are going to excite her more often, showing her that you are intimate and that you want to pleasure her every need. You don't even have to rub her hard, or touch her that long, just the soft gentle touches that show you are close to her will relay the message quite clearly."
Q. "Oh yes. Now what should he do?"
A. "He should get in the shower with her, and let her see his erection. I tell my male clients that she likes to get in the shower and take a good long hot shower, and this is your opportunity to get in on the action. Slide into the shower, and rub her down with the soap. As you lather her up, rub up against her and let her feel how hard you are. You don't have to have sex in the shower, just put her in the mood so she will be turned on and looking for action when she gets out of the shower. You surely already know what cologne is going to drive her crazy, so if you were to shower and put a little on, she is going to get turned on, and want you, even if she doesn't consciously know it. Taking a shower is not only going to freshen you up, but it is going to wake you up and your partner at the same time."
Q. "And finally?"
A. "I tell him, 'Don't just jump in bed, but slide into bed close to your partner and be next to her.'
"Slide into bed; slide right next to your partner. Jumping into bed, and making a ruckus is going to make your presence known but you are also going to annoy your partner a little more often. You want to be comfortable, and make your partner comfortable, so carefully climb into bed and get close. As you are sitting close with your partner, stroking her skin, and feeling her next to you, both of your are going to be more aroused."
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